When my father’s dementia turned dangerous, I stopped sleeping.
It wasn’t just the forgetfulness anymore. It was the stove left on at three in the morning. The front door standing wide open in winter.
The night I found him halfway down the block in his slippers, confused and trembling, asking me where his own house was.
I was scared—terrified, actually.
I called my brother first.
“Mark, I can’t keep doing this alone,” I said. “He’s wandering at night. He doesn’t recognize the house sometimes.”
“You’re overreacting,” he replied.
“He’s just getting older.”
Then I called my sister, Angela.
“Can you come stay a few nights a week? Or help with a caregiver? Anything?”
She sighed.
“You live five minutes away. It makes more sense for you to handle it.”
Handle it.
As if this was a broken appliance and not the man who had carried us on his shoulders and worked double shifts so we could go to college.
I asked them to split the cost of in-home care. They hesitated.
I asked them to come sit with him on weekends so I could sleep. They were “busy.” I asked them to at least talk about long-term plans.
Silence.
So I made the decision alone.
I toured facilities. I cried in parking lots.
I asked a hundred questions. And finally, when Dad nearly set the kitchen on fire trying to boil water, I signed the papers and moved him into a nursing home.
The backlash was immediate.
Angela called me first.
“How could you?” she demanded. “You put him in a home?
He’s not an invalid!”
“He’s not safe,” I said quietly.
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