The mom strongly believed OP wasn’t her father since he always used protection during intimacy. OP’s wife and her daughter decided to keep the secret from him since he funded their lavish lifestyle. OP was crushed, and after a heated confrontation with his wife, he ousted them, although he still gave the girl $200 since she was jobless.
Later, the girl came to visit him, begging for more money as she’d blown up everything. OP was livid, and he promised to help her only if she cooperated with him for a DNA test. After she agreed to the test, OP pursued it.
The results eventually revealed that he wasn’t her father. The dad was heartbroken with everything that happened in such a short time. He turned down his family’s and in-law’s request to forgive his wife and decided not to reconcile with his daughter since she was complicit in keeping him in the dark.
Reddit users shared their thoughts
“They are all blowing me up right now trying to get me to change my mind, so AITA?” he asked a fellow Redditor for moral judgment. After rummaging through OP’s plight, Redditors anonymously weighed in by declaring OP wasn’t at fault in the situation. The post’s top-voted commenter suggested OP needed to stop talking to his wife and her daughter, adding, “It seems the daughter made the decision to not see you as a father figure.
That could be because she’s angry you didn’t give her money, and she said it out of spite.”
Several others, including one user, claimed OP’s wife and daughter financially exploited him. “Get a good lawyer and move your funds into a separate account your wife can’t access. Go ahead and write your stepdaughter off,” the person advised.
In the end, OP concluded that although the girl he raised for 19 years, assuming she was his daughter, turned out to be someone else’s, he wouldn’t abandon her altogether. He resolved, “I won’t leave a young girl helpless in a city, even if the circumstances are bad. I won’t take her back or give her anywhere near as much money as I used to, but I will still help.”
When the paternity test revealed OP wasn’t the girl’s father, he kicked her out along with her mother.
Although OP admitted to helping the girl with little finances since she was unemployed, he was determined not to reconcile with her. Would you do the same if you were the father? After OP realized his wife had cheated on him with three other men, he outright expelled her from his life and house.
In the bargain, he also ousted the girl he thought was his daughter. Would you advise OP to give the girl a fair chance to prove that she could still be his daughter, though she’s not genetically related to him since she was not to blame for her mother’s infidelity? Do years of love fade away after discovering that the child you raised is someone else’s?
If you liked reading this story, here’s a similar one about how a man who visited his wife on her deathbed discovers that one of their kids is not his.
