But soon enough, the cracks appeared.
The fridge stayed full without me thinking about it.
Bills disappeared before I could see them.
Packages arrived at the door, and I never checked the price tags.
It felt like someone was finally looking out for me.
Then one afternoon, maybe three months in, he slid a bank card across the kitchen counter.
“This is for you.
It’s easier this way,” he said casually.
I didn’t argue.
Why would I?
He sounded completely reasonable.
The first time the card declined, I was standing at the register holding diapers and formula.
Heat crawled up my neck while the cashier waited, and the woman behind me in line shifted her weight from foot to foot.
“That’s strange,” I said when I called him from the parking lot.
He sighed like I’d disappointed him.
“The what?”
“The spending limit. You didn’t really think I gave you a card without a limit, did you?” He laughed.
“The last thing I need is a wife who bankrupts me at Nordstrom and Lululemon.”
“And it’s only the 15th of the month.
If you’d been more careful with your spending, this wouldn’t have happened,” he said.
“But—”
“You’ll have to budget better from now on.”
But that wasn’t all.
We had one car — his Cadillac.
If I needed groceries, I planned shopping trips around his meetings.
If I wanted to see a friend, I checked his calendar first.
It became automatic after a while.
One afternoon, I asked if I could drive myself to a prenatal appointment.
He looked genuinely surprised.
“Why?” he asked.
“I’ll take you.”
I didn’t say anything after that.
Arguments with Blaine didn’t sound like arguments.
They didn’t involve raised voices or slammed doors; they just ended with statements.
Facts I couldn’t argue against.
“I pay for everything.”
“That’s just how it is.”
“You’re being ungrateful.”
What do you say to that?
How do you argue with someone who makes you feel crazy for wanting basic things?
By the time the twins were born, my world had shrunk to the size of our house.
I loved my boys. I really, really did… Wren with his serious little face, and Callum with his constant giggles.
But some days I realized I hadn’t spoken to another adult in hours.
Sometimes days.
The breaking point didn’t come with yelling or a dramatic fight.
It came with a receipt.
I found it folded in his jacket pocket when I was doing laundry. It was for a weekend trip to a luxury resort, spa package included.
Only one guest — him.
The total made my stomach drop.
It was more than I’d spent in six months!
He didn’t even look embarrassed when I confronted him about it.
“I work hard. I deserve nice things.” Then he looked directly at me. “You don’t.”
That night, after he fell asleep, I sat in the dark with my phone.
My hands shook as I typed two words into the search bar.
Economic abuse.
All the suffering I’d endured suddenly had a name.
I filed for divorce quietly.
When I finally told him, he laughed.
“You’ll be back,” he said with complete confidence.
The court didn’t agree with him. I got custody of the boys, child support, and the house.
It wasn’t easy, and it wasn’t pretty, but I got what mattered.
He packed a bag and left.
Two weeks later, I came home to find the front door unlocked.
The house echoed in a way it hadn’t before.
The couch was gone, and the kitchen table, the fridge, the microwave, the framed photos from the hallway.
He stepped out into the hallway wearing work gloves, like he was doing renovations or something.
“I’m taking what I paid for,” he said simply.
Then he walked right past me, into the twins’ room.
“What are you doing?” I ran after him.
“You like this?” He ran his hand over the soft green wallpaper with the white clouds that I’d picked out.
He grabbed the edge and ripped.
“Stop! Don’t do this.
Please!”
He smiled and pulled again.
The clouds tore away from the wall in long, ugly strips.
And then his phone rang.
For a second, I thought he might ignore it, but then he glanced at the screen and frowned.
“I’m busy,” he snapped into the phone.
I didn’t hear the voice on the other end, but I saw his posture change completely.
The smug looseness left his shoulders.
He stopped mid-sentence and looked past me toward the hallway.
I heard the front door open and close.
Brisk footsteps echoed down the hallway, heels clicking on the hardwood. Then a woman’s voice carried down the hall.
His face drained of color faster than I’d ever seen.
I turned just as an older woman appeared in the doorway of the twins’ room.
She took in everything in one slow sweep: the torn wallpaper hanging off the wall like shed skin, and the work gloves on his hands.
Her gaze narrowed when she saw me, still struggling to hold back my tears.
She turned to him and arched her eyebrows.
He scoffed, recovering just enough to try his usual approach.
“This isn’t your business, Mom.”
Mom? I looked at the woman again.
This was his mother?
I’d never met her before, not even at the wedding. Nobody talked about her either. I’d assumed she was dead.
He stiffened like she’d slapped him.
“Don’t—”
“Don’t what?
Tell the truth? You think I don’t recognize this?” She gestured to the torn wall.
“The destruction and the timing? Right after she leaves.”
“I do.
I know every detail about your divorce.
I didn’t want to believe it, but now, I can’t deny it.”
She walked right up to Blaine and stared him down.
“You were eight years old. You stood in the hallway when your father told me I could never leave him because he owned everything, and I had nothing without him. You told me you’d take care of me when we had to leave in the middle of the night.”
Blaine let out a rough sound.
“It’s worse because you know exactly what you’re doing.
You felt how much this hurts firsthand, and instead of becoming a better man, you became your father.”
The silence pressed in from all sides.
His mother turned away from him then and walked up to me.
“I’m sorry,” she said. “You don’t deserve this.”
Then she looked back at him.
For the first time since I’d known him, he didn’t argue.
He dropped the torn strip of wallpaper. It slid to the floor in a sad little heap.
As he walked past her toward the door, she added one more thing.
“And don’t think I’m done with you.”
He paused in the doorway but didn’t turn around.
“We are going to have a long talk, my boy, but not tonight.
Understand?”
“Yes, Mom.”
He walked away, shoulders slumped, feet dragging. The front door shut a minute later.
Blaine’s mother exhaled like she’d been holding her breath for years. Maybe decades.
She paused, looking at the damage.
“We’ll fix this.
Not just the wall.”
“Thank you.” I sniffed. “If you hadn’t shown up when you did…”
She smiled sadly and placed a hand on my arm.
I nodded.
I believed her.
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