My FIL, Jeff, seemed lost without his wife, so my husband and I invited him to stay. At first, everything was fine — I cooked for everyone, and he settled in. But soon, his attitude changed.
He began treating me like a maid, asking for cookies, milk, or water, each hour even when I was near the kitchen.
I obliged at first, thinking he was adjusting, but his demands escalated. One day, Jeff handed me his laundry and said, “These need to be done by tomorrow.
I need them for golf.”
The breaking point came during a poker night with his friends. He kept asking me to serve drinks and snacks, and soon his friends started treating me the same way.
As they left, I overheard him tell my husband, “SEE?
THAT’S HOW YOU SHOULD TREAT A WOMAN.”
That comment hit hard.
It reminded me of how he treated my MIL — always making her cater to his needs. I realized I was falling into the same trap. But one evening, I was in the middle of preparing dinner when Brian strolled into the kitchen.
“Don’t forget I need my blue shirt ironed for tomorrow,” he said, planting a kiss on my cheek like it would soften the demand.
“No, Brian,” I said, my voice firm. “I’ve taken it seriously enough.
You both need to understand—this stops now. I am not your maid, and I am not his either.”
The tension in the room was thick.
I could see Brian’s stunned face as I walked out, determined that things were about to change—for good.
The very next morning, after a sleepless night of strategizing, I began typing out a “rental agreement.” I wasn’t going to charge Jeff rent, but I wanted clear, no-nonsense rules. If he was going to stay under our roof, things were going to change. – I cook one meal for everyone every day.
If someone wants something else, they can cook it themselves.
– If you’re physically capable of doing something, you do it yourself—this includes fetching drinks, laundry, and cleaning up after meals. – Everyone cleans up after themselves.
Dishes go in the dishwasher, not the sink. The laundry will be folded and put away by the person who wore it.
– If you invite guests over, you’re responsible for hosting them, including food, drinks, and cleanup.
– No sexist comments or behavior — this house operates on mutual respect, period. – Contributions to household chores are expected, not optional. You live here; you pitch in.
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