The woman shared, “Needless to say, the accusation of failing some secret, unspecified test left me absolutely stunned! I know he had a rough time in his last couple of days overseas, but it wasn’t much of a picnic at home either! I reminded him that I had to make a decision, just moments after having it confirmed that our beloved pet of 2 decades required euthanasia.
To either race home, drop her off and rush out to the airport, or come home and prepare a nice dinner. I couldn’t do both. I continued that I was feeling low too (because our cat, who was almost the same age as our youngest son) was dying, and I had been so preoccupied trying to keep her calm and comfortable that I hadn’t had time to do so much as plan for dinner.”
She added, “I had been crying all day and watching her suffer.
I also pointed out that the time span between the vet appointment and his flight landing was finite, and there was a possibility (as he wasn’t expecting me) that he could have landed and got into an Uber before I even made it to the airport. In which case, he’d have had no airport greeting AND no dinner!”
The OP explained, “He reiterated that the roast was lovely and appreciated, but he still would have preferred I met him at the airport on this occasion. I guess after 23 years of marriage, telepathy was somehow added to the job description without so much as a memo!
The last few days have been tough on everyone. We’re all raw and emotional. So his comment to me over breakfast still echoes in my head.
Is it possible that I ‘failed the supportive wife test’ by choosing to cook a roast dinner for my husband rather than meeting him at the airport on the evening I was told our 19-year-old cat needed to be put to sleep?”
People of Reddit rushed to the comments section, mainly in order to support the frustrated woman. One person wrote, “No, you didn’t fail. It seems like your husband is in a bad mood and looking for a fight.
My condolences for the loss of your kitty.”
Another user added, “Sounds like Hubby passed the ‘insensitive dude’ test by signing up for a marathon on for his 23rd anniversary and confirmed the award by complaining that wife didn’t pick him up when he has repeatedly said not to because it’s easier to expense the Uber.”
One more user said, “It also sounds like he thinks he’s the center of the universe and that everybody should just cater to him without asking how. He wants her to read his mind.”
Some concerned user advised, “Start every conversation the next week with some form of how he’s failed at being a supportive husband test. OP already has a great start!
‘You’ve failed at being a supportive husband by not being with me on our anniversary weekend. You’ve failed at not being a supportive husband by not answering any of my texts about the kitty.’
This one is fun because he literally couldn’t, but that’s the point. It’s RIDICULOUS.”
Source: Bright Side
