Pumping is so hard. It’s painful and if you can’t relax, the milk won’t come.”
One more user wrote, “Yup milk supply is based on oxytocin and in general, our mood. This is why some moms have to listen to a video of their baby crying, as it triggers letdown.
Pumping is not fun. The machine is sucking and pinching at you (not fun). I get waves of nausea and extreme thirst while pumping.
I feel for you and the hours you work, perhaps a nanny for a couple hours a day so that both of you can get more rest.”
Someone emotionally commented, “OP is a gigantic gaping black abyss of a wrongdoer with no understanding of neither women nor breast pumps. And boo-hoo he works 14 hours a day. His wife does 24 h per day, and he begrudges her 1 h of Korean drama cause he doesn’t deem pumping to be work?
I hate pumping so much I’d rather be doing anything but pump so to trick my mind and body to release milk I need to huff my baby’s used PJ’s, look at something that relaxes&distracts me and go into my mindful zen mode and I still need an oxytocin nasal spray to kick off letdown. I also have milk to feed an armada of babies, so the problem isn’t lack of milk, but getting it out.”
One more person shared, “Pumping is NOT fun. It’s uncomfortable/painful, and of course she should get a break otherwise while doing it.
Plus you often need to adjust the flanges, settings, massage to help empty the breast etc. It can be an active process to get as much milk as you can. So basically you’re asking her to do two difficult things simultaneously AFTER watching a baby all day.
She’s not a dairy cow, she’s a human being, treat her like one.”
Another user added, “You are wrong, but I understand your predicament. You’re looking at this the wrong way. You aren’t considering that she’s working all day too and her job is just as hard as yours is in a different way.
It comes with almost no time off, but for the bits of sleep she can get or that hour you give her when you get home. She’s a 24-hour-a-day milking machine, and it’s hard work. What you need to do is reach out to family, see if someone can come in and help her out and lighten the load.
Hire a nanny or a housekeeper who comes in once or twice a week for a while, ask grandma or grandpa to take the baby for a walk, so mom can rest, etc. Seriously.”
