We got a letter from a young woman who just became a wife and a mom.
But, unfortunately, this happy time isn’t all sunshine and rainbows because they’re dealing with money issues, so they have to move in with her in-laws.
Right from the beginning, her relationship with her mother-in-law has been a bit rocky.
This is Rain’s letter
I live with my in-laws because we’re 21 and can’t afford our own place while raising our baby. My mother-in-law expects me to clean up their mess and even
do the family laundry. I told my husband,
“Show some backbone and defend me!
I’m not your mom’s maid!” Later, I came home and was shocked to see that all of my belongings were gone
from our room; my closet was empty. My mother-in-law had prepared my
suitcase and placed it next to the door. She said, “If you can’t respect my rules in my house, then you’re no longer
welcome.” The worst part was that my husband just
shrugged and said,
, “Maybe it’s better if you go to your parents’ house for a while
with the baby until things calm down.” I reminded him that I had left everything and moved miles away to be with him,
then I left. I feel completely helpless. Now, I’m back at the house, but things are even more tense than before. What should
I do?
Sincerely.
Rain
Thanks for sharing your story, Rain! We’ve got some tips that we think might help you out.
Talk to your husband.
Pick a peaceful day and a quiet spot where you won’t be interrupted. Speak in a calm manner, avoiding any drama or blame.
Your husband might not really get how serious things are.
Share your feelings and worries with him honestly.
Seek help from a psychologist.
You’ve got a pretty tricky situation on your hands since it involves you, your husband, and your mother-in-law.
Talking to a psychologist might be a good idea—they can help you figure out how to make things work with your mother-in-law while still keeping things solid with your husband.
Consider rental housing options.
If your marriage is in trouble, it might be time to consider some drastic steps to try to fix it.
Check out the rental market and maybe talk to a lawyer.
You could find some temporary place to live and distance yourself from your mother-in-law.
It might be a bit tough on your wallet, but it could help you save your family, and you can always bounce back when your kid gets a bit older.
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