Carefully.
Slowly. One guy in particular—Mateo—was different.
Kind, steady. The first time he saw Reina, he brought her a dinosaur sticker and let her talk for twenty minutes straight about her imaginary zoo.
He didn’t try to take up space.
Just fit himself into ours gently. One evening, as I was folding laundry, Reina came in and said, “Mama, Mateo always helps you. That’s what daddies do, right?”
I smiled.
“That’s what good people do.”
He’s not her dad.
He doesn’t try to be. But he shows up—for both of us.
Sometimes I think back to that dinner, all those years ago. When my ex called me a trap.
When I almost believed him.
When I thought being tired and unsupported was just part of growing up too fast. But now I know better. Love doesn’t make you feel small.
It doesn’t sit back while you drown.
It gets in the water with you and helps you paddle. I was never the trap.
I was the lifeboat. If you’re reading this and stuck in a one-sided mess, let me tell you: you’re not crazy.
You’re not asking too much.
You’re just asking the wrong person. Give yourself permission to start again. Sometimes the happiest endings are the ones we build from scratch—with calloused hands, tired eyes, and a whole lot of faith.
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Let’s remind each other—we’re allowed to outgrow the people who stunt our growth.
