OP also noted how hard she’d worked to get to her position in a large organization. He also mentioned that they didn’t have enough savings for her to be well cared for if something happened to him.
The Redditor also shared his fears of being a target of layoffs because of his hefty salary. He felt he got his point across.
She agreed with most of what he said and confessed to feeling overwhelmed with all that had to be done before their wedding day. OP’s fiancée mentioned how bad he is at organizing tasks and how she’ll have to handle things independently.
The woman complained about feeling burnt out at work and barely had energy at the end of the week.
She felt like a work-mule without the pay to show for it, and that’s why she wanted to avoid the work stress by being able to plan for her wedding from a “happy place.”
OP’s partner promised to look for work after their wedding and honeymoon. However, she wanted a different role than the one she had, one with more predictable hours. She even discussed returning to school to get her Masters and insisted she didn’t want to be a trophy wife.
The couple concluded with OP saying he thought her compromise was fair, and she planned on resigning that week.
OP said he understood why people called her a gold-digger and understood where they came from since he grew up poor and tried not to show off to his family because not everyone has what he has.
He felt his fiancée had fallen into “that version of me,” but believed if he trusted her enough to marry her, he also had to trust his perceptions of her.
He acknowledged the engagement ring and her excitement to show it around but felt most of his colleagues’ spouses also had more admirable rings.
Once again, Reddit users weighed in, with one saying, “Yeah ring was a huge red flag. It seems like as soon as she heard what he makes her eyes lit up with $ signs. Now she wants the lavish lifestyle and doesn’t seem interested in op’s opinions.
Don’t let her quit.”
“Get a pre-nup, because, shocker, she will not go back to work after the wedding,” added another reader. “She’s never going back to work lol,” believed someone else.
“Her plan is to literally quit her job and let OP pay for everything, including her independent debts… so she can focus all of her attention on planning every intricate detail of a wedding that she will be contributing nothing at all to? What is her plan beyond that ONE DAY?
To just, basically… exist?” a Reddit user questioned.
Replying to OP’s update and mention of his parents insisting he marry his fiancée in 2024, someone said, “You lost any credibility when you said that your parents are insisting on you getting married this year. I can’t take you seriously as a successful adult if mummy and daddy are still telling you what to do.”
“Hire a wedding planner. Who quits their job to plan a wedding?
OP, she doesn’t want to work anymore and is setting you up for a world of hurt. Get a prenup and make sure YOU use birth control,” suggested another reader.
“If you’re happy, that’s fine. But please don’t be naive.
Get a prenup. I highly doubt she’s ever going to work again, and you’ll be on the hook for a tonne of alimony because she hasn’t worked since the moment you got engaged. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.
Secure your future,” advised a concerned Redditor.
Source: amomama
