“JUST FOOD?” My laugh was hollow. “Let me tell you what ‘just food’ means, Randy.
It means getting up at 5 a.m. to prepare meals before my shift. It means spending my weekends planning menus and grocery shopping.
It means —”
“For God’s sake,” he interrupted, “you’re acting like I committed a crime!”
I stared at him, disbelief bubbling into fury. “Do you even hear yourself? For months, I thought I was going crazy, wondering where all the food was going, blaming myself for not cooking enough.
And all this time, you were giving it away like it meant NOTHING!”
“Don’t you think you’re overreacting?” he said, his tone sharp now. “She’s my sister, Doris. What was I supposed to do?
Tell her no?”
“YES!” I exploded. “That’s exactly what you should’ve done!”
His silence was deafening.
“You know what hurts the most?” I whispered. “You never even asked me.
You just decided my time, my effort, meant nothing.”
“That’s not fair,” he protested. “I appreciate everything you do —”
“No,” I cut him off. “Appreciation isn’t taking without asking.
It isn’t lying. It isn’t making me feel crazy.”
“You’re making a mountain out of a molehill, Doris. Give me a break!
Oh, what are you planning to cook for dinner, by the way?”
The audacity.
“Fine,” I snapped. “From now on, you’re on your own. If you touch anything I cook, I’ll buy a locked fridge.
And if you want me to even consider forgiving you, you’ll cook for ME every day for a year.”
Randy’s face twisted in disbelief. “You’re being ridiculous.”
“Am I?” I shot back, grabbing my purse. “Well, let’s see how ridiculous I feel tomorrow.
Good luck, Chef Randy.”
For two days, Randy tried to keep up appearances. He ordered takeout, plated it carefully, and pretended it was homemade. I wasn’t fooled.
“This isn’t going to work,” I said, pushing away a plate of obviously store-bought lasagna.
“I’m trying here,” he protested.
“Isn’t that worth something?”
“Trying would have been respecting me in the first place,” I replied quietly.
By the third day, I realized the truth: I wasn’t his wife. I was his maid, his cook, and his convenient solution.
The realization gutted me. But it also set me free.
When I called Ellie and Jonah to tell them I was leaving Randy, their reactions were exactly what I’d expected.
“Mom,” Jonah said, his voice heavy with disbelief, “you’re getting divorced over food?”
“It’s not just food,” I said, gripping the phone tightly.
“But Mom,” he persisted, “remember all those family dinners?
The Thanksgiving when Dad burned the turkey and we ordered pizza? Those moments mean something.”
Ellie chimed in, frustration bubbling through her words. “Mom, you’ve been together for 25 years.
That has to count for something. Can’t you work it out? Dad loves you… he’s just a little clueless sometimes.”
“Clueless?” I repeated.
“Is that what we’re calling deliberate deception now?”
Silence.
I took a deep breath, steadying my voice. “Listen to me. You didn’t see his face when I showed him that video.
He didn’t apologize, didn’t feel bad. He acted like I was crazy for being upset. This isn’t just about the food… it’s about respect.”
“But —” Jonah started, but I cut him off.
“Do you know how hurtful it is to feel invisible?
To realize that the person you trusted most doesn’t value you or your time? I’ve spent years putting everyone else first, and I’m tired. I deserve better.”
“Mom,” Ellie said softly, “when you put it that way… I remember how you used to make my favorite mac and cheese every time I was sad.
That wasn’t just food either, was it?”
Silence filled the line again before Ellie finally said, “I… I get it, Mom. I don’t like it, but I get it.”
“Me too,” Jonah muttered reluctantly. “Just… do what you need to do.”
A week later, I packed my bags.
“You’re leaving?” Randy asked, his voice laced with panic.
“Over this? Doris, please… we can work this out.”
“I’m done,” I said simply. “I deserve better.”
“What about everything we built?” he pleaded.
“Twenty-five years, Doris. You’re throwing that away over some leftovers?”
I turned to face him one last time. “No, Randy.
You threw it away. One container at a time. Oh, by the way, those weren’t LEFTOVERS.
They were tokens of my love and devotion. See you in court. Goodbye.”
Months passed, and I started to rebuild after the divorce.
Therapy. New hobbies. Long walks where I didn’t have to answer to anyone.
Then, one day, my phone buzzed with a message from May:
“Hey, Doris.
Just wanted you to know Randy asked me to help him with meals. At first, I said yes, but now I get it. He’s impossible.
Sorry for everything.”
I stared at the message for a long time before laughing. Of course Randy had roped her in. And of course she’d hit her limit too.
Now, I keep the video of May packing her pink tote bag as a reminder.
Every time doubt creeps in, and every time I wonder if I was too harsh or too quick to leave — I replay it. It’s a reminder that I deserve better.
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