Second, the entire evening felt like a trap. I suspect he insisted on the expensive place just to see if I would “allow” him to pay or if I’d let him pay for a $250 portion of the bill. It felt like he was checking to see if I was a “golddigger,” despite the fact that I was the one who told him not to pick that restaurant in the first place.
I thanked him for the meal, went home, and blocked him on every single platform.
I shared this on Reddit and got a whirlwind of reactions. Some people said I was overreacting to a “gentlemanly gesture.” Others agreed with me—that he was playing games and testing my boundaries.
I don’t believe in mind games on a first date. If you have to test someone to see who they “really are,” you’ve already failed the test of basic respect. I’d rather be alone than have to worry about whether my date is trying to manipulate me or steal my personal information.
I’m curious to know what you think. Am I the “problem,” or did he cross a line by using the bill as a tool to pry into my personal information and test my character?
